So, I had the recent realization that I was expecting a lot from the food I eat. I mean, I was expecting it to validate me, to tell me I am enough - that I did a good job, - that I am enough just as I am.
And that is a heck of a lot to put on food - that is expecting way too much out of a banana.
So, I am trying to change my relationship with food - allow food to be what it is is - something to nourish and sustain my body and something to be shared with my friends and family in an nurturing - relationship building way.
If I’m not looking to food for validation - then where do I get it? Answer- myself! I am having fun telling myself that I did a good job, that I worked hard, that I am valuable, I am whole, and I am worthy person. I know this is true because it’s true for all of us.
We are whole, worthy humans because we are here together. Often it’s our own selves that tell us that we are not, and if we can’t tell ourselves that we are good people, we look for that affirmation outside of ourselves. For me, I burdened food with the job.
And while this may sound cheesy or pathetic - it really works to just love your damn self -it’s the best. Let the bagel nourish your body while you take care of your spirit.
PS More on what helped me to love myself next week!
Anna Lentz, artist, writer, and creativity coach who blogs about making a creative life connected with nature at Spring Bird.